How Successful People Think
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I believe there’s a huge difference in the way successful people and unsuccessful people think, and I believe that success itself is not some big mystery that people haven’t figured out before, even though when we’re struggling and fighting and trying to make it day-by-day to get better, it can feel like this arduous un-noble process. Success has been figured out and we all know it’s a mindset game.
Most of success is just about how we use our psychology.
I remember when I was starting my business and I really wanted to be good at it. I was trying to become an author, a speaker and do these types of videos and even doing some online training for people on the topics of motivation, marketing and people were saying you may or may not be successful with that. I thought; it’s not like there’s a trait of successful people.
You look across history at successful people and they aren’t from a given background. They don’t come from a specific economic stature. They aren’t in a position where they are of one or another demographic, it’s all over. We have thousands of collective years of history, some people succeed some don’t and I think it comes down to more, how we manage our mind and our days.
I think there’s a difference between successful and unsuccessful people in the way they particularly think about approaching something new. I think unsuccessful people, when they have a big dream and start thinking about what’s going to be required to accomplish that dream, they get very limiting in their beliefs about themselves and what’s possible.
They say three types of things specifically… I don’t know how to do that. So they stop. I don’t have those things. I’m not like those people. So they stop. I’m not like that. So they stop.
Successful people have a different way. They have the same thing. Everybody dreams. You dream, I dream, successful people dream. Everybody dreams and has a vision. Everyone, if they could just take five minutes and think about their lives, we could all come up with ways to improve our lives and reach another level of success, joy, happiness, achievement, contribution, fulfillment and soul. We can all elevate, the challenge is that unsuccessful people keep stopping, when they think of what they currently know, have or are.
Whereas, successful that people say I want to do that but I don’t know how and instead of stopping they say, then my job is to go learn that. They take their current limitation and put it on their agenda as a job to do, as a thing to figure out and make happen. Instead of saying, I don’t have that. They say then my job is to go build that. Or, I’m not like that than they say my job is to go become more of that, become that person who could accomplish those things.
A Simple Story About Anger
I used to think I had to accept someone’s anger or hatred towards me, but after I read this I realized I did not, and it changed everything.
One day Buddha was walking through a village.
A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. “You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake.”
Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?”
The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, “It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.”
The Buddha smiled and said, ”That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.”
“If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy.”